Dear Tumblr:
How many rape threats do I have to receive before you do your jobs? 10? 20?
50? 100?As a victim of rape, your lack of any attention to this matter is appalling
and fucking ridiculous.Well, here are some links for you, as well as the link to the person’s new
blog:
http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778927312/severe-tw-on-this-one
Threatens to rape and murder me.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778881965/remember-how-i-asked-for-proof-about-where-ive-been
Throws slurs against black people, makes rape threats out to be a “joke”.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778852570/hmmmm-and-im-the-bad-person
“Funny” rape is okay on tumblr, apparently.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778834262/so-this-fuckhead-http-1900fuckoff-tumblr-com
More “funny” rape.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778807726/report-this-page
Admitted stalking.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778774295/1900fuckoff-im-probably-going-to-hit-my-post
Rachel being transphobic and leaving the new name of her blog
21fatstreet.tumblr.com so that you can ban both.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778760256/hmmmm-and-im-the-bad-person
Another rape threat.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778740643/princess-brat-the-difference-between-jokes-and-actual
Rachel threatens to rape a completely different person, but it’s okay, because it’s just LOLZ.http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778714590/the-difference-between-jokes-and-actual-oppression
Rachel links to her own stalker behavior and rape threats, claiming that all of this is okay because it’s just JOKES and rairaichu should be banned for calling me a nigger.These are only the rape threats against me that I could manage to go
through. THE RAPE THREATS GO ON FOR PAGES AGAINST ME AND OTHER PEOPLE UNDER THE GUISE OF “A JOKE”.HOW MANY RAPE AND MURDER THREATS ARE OKAY, TUMBLR?
HOW. MANY?
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Signal boost the shit out of this. Report these shitstains to abuse@tumblr.com and support@tumblr.com. Rape and murder threats from a white person to a PoC is no fucking joke, and this chick is posting any personal information she thinks she can get, while claiming that the intent to rape me is a “joke”.
I am not fucking standing for it.
changed links to current url, also current url of this person is chchikadee
(Source: crackerhell, via ontopofyou)
In 30 years observations, Jane Goodall never saw one rape among the chimpanzees, our closest primate cousins. Though it’s not possible to draw firm conclusions about human behaviour from animals, Goodall’s findings, and many other recent studies, get us questioning the old myths we have about rape. One of the most persistent myths about rape is that male biology and primitive male sex urges drive men to rape. But current information indicates that rape is more a learned act of sexual violence that comes out of social beliefs that men have a right to dominate and control women. The fact that rape is learned means that we can work to change the underlying beliefs and eliminate rape from our communities.
from truth about rape
wait people say that rape is natural what????
(via ontopofyou)
Arabella Rivera came from a military family. Her brother was in the Air Force and her father in the US Army. Ms. Rivera, at age 18, joined the Air Force, and was sent to Lowry Air Force Base. Naive and innocent as most Catholic girls, the white military started conspiring against her. Her first orders were to wear short skirts. She had been in photography school at the base for about three months when she was set up for a sexual assault. An officer she trusted forced her to perform oral sex in his car. “I didn’t know what the hell he was doing. He grabbed me and pulled me down. … He wouldn’t let me go. I was choking. I thought I would die,” she recalled.
After that night, her life was in shambles and she began to drink heavily to relieve her shame. A few days later, walking home from the airmen’s club, the same man followed her to a remote part of the base and sodomized her. She said she screamed and cried until he let her go.
The next week, when a master sergeant followed her into a bathroom and began putting his hands up her shirt, she “freaked out,” she said. He stopped, and told her the incident never happened, and that life would be hell if she told anyone. Arabella Rivera was subsequently assaulted numerous times. After one incident she was forced to work with her attacker. Arabella Rivera has had intensive therapy, but had to drop out after an extremely traumatic session.
She never reported the assaults because of the threats and feeling that no one would believe her.
Being a female in the military, she said, meant “you had to fight tooth and nail to compete with the men. So I became one of the boys. Had a foul mouth like the men. Drank like them and became promiscuous. I didn’t know how to be a lady anymore. I didn’t show emotion. I didn’t cry.”
The above behavior may be the same “syndrome” Lynndie England demonstrated and that is depicted in the the Abu Ghraib torture photographs of Iraqi POW’s. Lynndie England reputed to be a lesbian, never-the-less was extremely promiscuous and is now five months pregnant in the brig at Fort Bragg.
Arabella Rivera began therapy, but at first reliving the trauma was too much to take. “I crawled on the floor, cried and cried and said, ‘I can’t do this anymore.’ “I didn’t want to die, but I didn’t want to live.” She ended up in the psychiatric ward of VA Hospital.
(Source: bijunn, via rapeculturerealities)
I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:
Thanks everyone!
I like Rain for Info, but apparently it’s not as much of a male safe space.
(via holisticsexualhealth)
TW: rape
PLEASE SPREAD THIS
A 17 year old girl was raped by two men and then told by court officials that she wasn’t allowed to talk about it or share the names of her attackers. She tweeted her rapists’ names and is now facing 180 days in jail and a $500 fine.
Her rapists’ names, in case you were wondering, are Will Frey and Austin Zehnder. Please spread these names so that the court isn’t able to protect these boys and shame the victim.
In light of the recent events in Kentucky, where a 17-year-old girl was sexually assaulted by two boys, I posted a link to my Facebook of the story where she got in trouble for tweeting the names of the assailants. Of course, many people came out in support of this girl, and stated that she should not be in trouble, about how court is only about who has a better lawyer, etc.
I realised that whenever I post about a news story about sexual assault I always find out who among my “friends” are the type of people who blame the victim. I have ceased talking to many a person as soon as I found out that kind of information.
What truly disgusted me is that someone actually had the nerve to post ON MY STATUS that it is her fault, she’s stupid, and she had it coming to her. NO. NO NO NO. Everything about that statement is completely and totally out of line.
It’s not ok to say things like that. Passed out means no. Drunk means no. Not saying anything means no. Negative body language means no. I’m sure that many people who assert “passed out means free game” actually know that it means no, but choose to ignore that fact to satisfy their desires for power.
RAPE IS NEVER THE VICTIM’S FAULT. No matter how much someone asserts that it is the victim’s fault, it isn’t. The word victim in and of itself signifies the fact that a person had something done to them against their will. You wouldn’t say that a bank deserved to get robbed, or that someone deserved to have their iPod stolen, so why the hell would you say that someone deserved to be assaulted? It just doesn’t make sense, it’s cruel and unnecessary, and it perpetuates rape culture. It’s not ok.
If you can’t tell, I’m extremely angry about this. Whenever someone says that sexual assault is the fault of the victim, I become enraged. Many people that have been sexually assaulted already struggle with thinking it is their fault, and don’t need chauvinistic douchebags perpetuating that notion. As a victim of sexual assault and someone who knows many people who have been assaulted, this hits quite close to home. Bottom line, it’s not ok to tell people things that aren’t true and just cause harm to people. It makes people feel bad, and it causes stupidity amongst people who listen to them and start agreeing.
“I need feminism because society teaches ‘don’t get raped’ instead of ‘don’t rape’”
Here is the conversation in question if you would like to view it: https://www.facebook.com/ubercrow/posts/267017020070433
Please, please, please reblog the heck out of this.
Anon asked:
(TW: discussion of rape aftermath/consent)
Hello, Tyra and all! Almost exactly a year ago, I survived sexual assault. I’m currently working on rebuilding my sex life. I’ve been very vocal with my partners about making sure we’re communicating, asking permission, and being prepared to stop if they need to. And I’ve been fortunate enough to have partners that either want exactly what I want (yay!) or are good enough at reading my body language that they stop without me telling them to. I’ve found that I’m really good at saying “yes!”… but I also found out the other night that I’m not good at saying “no.” My partner wanted to move into some more intimate activities, and I didn’t, but the word “no” just got stuck in my throat. I felt an immense amount of anxiety, and almost as if I was choking on the words. After maybe a minute of me just laying there frozen, they stopped—but even then it took me a while to explain that no, I didn’t want to have sex right then. Nobody is telepathic, and I know it is my responsibility to tell my partners when something isn’t OK. But I don’t always want to explain the whole backstory to people I’m hooking up with. Sorry, one night stand hottie, it’s none of your business. When I was having a lot of trouble saying “no” in general, I was able to practice in my day-to-day life, and that helped a lot. I don’t think that’s practical for sex stuff, though—if I want to say no, I can’t, and if I want to say yes, then I don’t want to stop! Do you have any advice on how to be able to say no in the moment? I believe that every one of my partners would listen if I said it, it just… won’t come out.
Hey Anon!
This is a super question, and I know it’s something a lot of survivors deal with. I know I certainly did.
It sounds like you have some stellar partners, and I think that can be one of the most helpful things in relearning to navigate ex.
If you’ve already got good lines of communication with your partners, I found it helpful (in comparison to verbally saying the word ‘no’) to come up with an agreement with my partners. Kind of like a safeword, but a physical one. I found making a physical motion, almost like a tap-out in wrestling, to be much easier than saying ‘no’.
Another thing I found helpful was, in the spur of the moment, to just say the most ridiculous thing I could think of. This caused my partners to be completely confused, and because they knew about my history of trauma, they put two and two together and got four. I literally said some long elaborate sentence about bananas and turnstiles once. It worked like a charm, and we were able to laugh about whatever I said afterwards.
If you’re finding it pretty easy to say ‘yes’, a slightly less sure-fire way to voice non-consent is to turn ‘yes’ into a question. “Yes!” and “Yes?” sound very, very different and your anxiety will likely show through to your partner if you make it a question.
Human beings are nifty. We have ways of beating around the bush, and that can be awesome or it can be shitty. It can be awesome when we’re trying to find a different way to say something we find triggering, but shitty when someone’s trying to tell us they lost something we gave to them for safekeeping. Luckily, we’re only trying to do the former. A neat little way I’ve found to express non-consent without saying ‘no’ is to suggest doing something else that I do want to do. If you’ve lost the mood, that’s okay too. Try suggesting something not related to sex - your partner should get the message.
Those are the most sure-fire ways I’ve found to be helpful, and the things I usually suggest to people in-person, but it’s entirely possible none of them will work for you (everyone’s different, yada yada). If that’s the case, just send off another ask and I’ll ask some of my old consent-workshop-speaker-friends for suggestions (or, y’know, it’s also COMPLETELY possible other mods have ideas and they can answer).
Hope this helps!
-spunkmate
TRIGGER WARNING
This is a Scottish anti-rape PSA that is a direct response to blaming a rape victim for dressing like a slut.
tw: child sexual abuse
Unpopular opinion, but.
There’s a difference between having a fantasy and acting on it. Having the fantasy does not hurt anyone.
The action of sex with children who cannot consent is wrong.
Fantasising about it is not. It is not sick. Fantasy can help to identify boundaries. It is important to recognise that many people fantasise about things they would never do in real life. As long as the line between fantasy and reality is kept clear, paedophilic fantasies are not wrong.
(I speak from the perspective of a child sexual abuse survivor here, just to clarify that.)
Bye, followers.
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