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Most folks assume that kinks are always a sexual thing, but that is not so! A kink, by definition, is something that curves, bends, or twists. It is also defined as a personality quirk. The slang definition means a deviation in sexual behavior, or taste.

Many asexual spectrum folks find themselves with kinks, and sometimes it can make them feel bad about themselves, or question their asexuality. Often, they will get bullied because people will forget that kinks are not inherently sexual.

Asexual kinks are just like any other, and range in what they are, from hands, to gore, to food! They are diverse.

A problem that can often come up for kinky asexuals, is finding a partner to participate in their kinks in a non sexual nature. Remember that if you are a partner of an asexual person, and they want to be kinky with you, they get to define the experience. Develop safe words and safe signals to use with them, and have open and honest communication about the experience. Ask them if they feel comfortable, would like you to stop or change anything. If they say “no more”, don’t push them. Even if you get turned on by doing something with your asexual partner, don’t bring up sex to them unless they have said it’s ok to do that. Respect that their asexuality and kinks co-exist, and do not exist for your sole pleasure.

If you are a kinky asexual, feel free to add on with your comments and experiences, and your advice on the matter.