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August 2012

45 posts

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Police Destroying Condoms

Seems counterproductive to discourage sex workers from using condoms … but it’s happening around the globe.

Anonymous asked: What's your ethnicity?

Making it bigger with links enabled.

fuckyeahsexpositivity: How the heck is virginity a social construct? I’m confused, but thanks for the suggestions Anonymous Well, think about it this way: what do people perceive as making you not a virgin? Is it breaking a hymen? Well, that doesn’t work, because hymens as we think of them don’t exist. Is it being penetrated? With what? Are tampons the same thing as having sex? Isn’t...

[TW: Rape, Assault, & Death Threats] I've sent...

stfunithingas: highvoodoopussypope: Dear Tumblr: How many rape threats do I have to receive before you do your jobs? 10? 20? 50? 100? As a victim of rape, your lack of any attention to this matter is appalling and fucking ridiculous. Well, here are some links for you, as well as the link to the person’s new blog: http://highvoodoopussypope.tumblr.com/post/21778927312/severe-tw-on-this-one...

Anonymous asked: can we see a pic of you? xx

letsdiscussthis: I support women-only spaces. I support trans-only spaces. I support spaces that include both women and transwomen. Why is this such a controversial statement? Women who were born women and transwomen who were born men have different experiences.

“Much like in the 1980′s with the rise of Reagan conservatism, the evangelical...”

– The Politics of the Female Voter tl;dr: WHY IS ANYONE WITH A UTERUS VOTING FOR ROMNEY/RYAN (via stfusexists)

Why Sex Positivity Doesn't Always Mean Engaging in...

unbrokencircle: anetterose: Last April, I had sex with a man for the first time. It was an amazing experience with a man, who I thought at the time, was amazing. From that moment on, my sex life grew tremendously. That was about a year-and-a-half ago and right now I’ve had about 15 different sex partners. Now, that statement in itself is fine. There is nothing wrong with having one sex partner...

from the dictionary of Olivia:

brillianceofbone: fapnap, n. When you masturbate and then take a short nap afterwards. You’ll wake up feeling completely refreshed!

Rape is not "natural"

sailyoutotheshore: In 30 years observations, Jane Goodall never saw one rape among the chimpanzees, our closest primate cousins. Though it’s not possible to draw firm conclusions about human behaviour from animals, Goodall’s findings, and many other recent studies, get us questioning the old myths we have about rape. One of the most persistent myths about rape is that male biology and primitive...

Anonymous asked: How old are you actually?

Critiquing the rhetoric against teen "sexting"

unbrokencircle: So, I recently was working as a teacher’s assistant for a summer program helping 8th graders transition to high school. The students occasionally had to attend lectures, including one from the vice-principal and another from a person who worked with a non-profit. The former was basically just going over the rules of the high school and telling the students how to “keep out of...

Anonymous asked: do you identify as a radical feminist?

Anonymous asked: Is it normal for one boob to be bigger/smaller than the other? M xx

Get FREE Condoms! The Great American Condom...

fuckyeahsexpositivity: this-reputable-dog: becauseiamawoman: Its that time of year again! Applications are currently open to make your campus a Great American Condom Campaign Safe Site. Never heard of the program? According to their website: “The Great American Condom Campaign is a youth-led grassroots movement to make the U.S. a sexually healthy nation. Each year, GACC members give out...

Circumcision Myths You May Believe →

EVERYONE needs to read this. I am seriously so sick of the immaturity and ignorance people have about this subject. It kind of blows my mind that people think we need to mutilate the body to get it to work ‘correctly’. Why would male-bodied people have a foreskin if it was so detrimental to their health? As the article states, the human genitals are wonderfully self-cleaning and require no...

“Christian Grey is happy to denounce his sexual identity if Ana should ask this...”

– Heresy Corner: Fifty Shades of Grr (via sexisnottheenemy) This entire article has to be read, because it is fucking awesome. —BB (via fuckyeahsexpositivity)

Coping with Flashbacks

betterthandarkchocolate: Here are some helpful coping techniques for dealing with flashbacks when alone: Memory Games One of the easiest ways to cope or manage a flashback is by distraction. Try to remember something challenging such as the lyrics to a particular song, or a favourite poem. This can help interrupt the flashback by redirecting the activity in your brain. For some reason, memory...

TRIGGER WARNING [rape]: The Rape of Latinas in the...

lebanesepoppyseed: foxtalbotnegatives: pityplease: Arabella Rivera came from a military family. Her brother was in the Air Force and her father in the US Army. Ms. Rivera, at age 18, joined the Air Force, and was sent to Lowry Air Force Base. Naive and innocent as most Catholic girls, the white military started conspiring against her. Her first orders were to wear short skirts. She had been...

(tw: homophobia, assault, hate crime, violence...)...

safespacenetwork: avengent: Early this morning a girl was assaulted in her home. She lives 2 blocks from my old apartment, and is a member of the LGBT community. She was beaten, stripped naked and had the words “fag”, “dyke” and “cunt” carved into her skin. She was then tied up while her house was set on fire. She managed to escape, and survive. She is currently in...

simonefiasco asked: thank you for the edit, i literally just took the information verbatim from Mayo Clinic and they aren't exactly trans* friendly

Maintenance, cleaning and care of your sex toys! →

edited by me for cissexist language - other than...

simonefiasco: ALL ABOUT VAGINAL DRYNESS Vaginal dryness is a common problem for people during and after menopause, although inadequate vaginal lubrication can occur at any age. Vaginal dryness is a hallmark sign of vaginal atrophy (atrophic vaginitis) — thinning and inflammation of the vaginal walls due to a decline in estrogen. Along with vaginal dryness, you might also have itching and...

Resources for Male Survivors

sexreeducated: letstalkaboutrape: I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with: www.malesurvivor.org www.violenceunsilenced.com www.rainn.org www.pandys.org www.1in6.org www.soulspeakout.org Thanks everyone! I like Rain for Info, but apparently it’s not as much of a male safe space.

Dispatches from a College Sexpert: Be a Birth... →

bedsider: We’ve all said it—“I’ll have what she’s having,” “I’ll get the same as her,” “What she got,” or something along those lines. We may say it at the store, at the movie theater, or at a restaurant, but many of us also take that attitude when we’re getting on birth control. Of course friends generally give great advice and, if they recommend their birth control method, it’s with our...

“If you have to lie about yourself in order to get someone to submit to you, they...”

– Points to Ponder: Cerina’s Advice for Dominants (via sexnthebigeasy)

The Big List of Resources for Family of Trans*...

transteens: This list isn’t as big as it should be, because unfortunately there isn’t a lot of help out there for parents, siblings, children and other family members of trans* people. However this list is always growing and will be updated whenever new information is found/created. Family members of Trans* people go through a different type of transition when their child begins to transition,...

I'm Intrigued: Luna Beads

thesexuneducated: I recently ventured out to my local sex shop in search for the perfect birthday gift for a dear friend. I suddenly became very intrigued by the Luna Beads made by LeloLelo, a visually sleek and modern sex toy company. As per their product description: LUNA beads are for women (people) who treasure their sensuality. A stylish and discreet alternative to the traditional ‘geisha...

National Transgender Discrimination Survey [Report... →

pityplease: I’ve highlighted the most important parts of the study for you all to read: Discrimination was pervasive for all respondents who took the National Transgender Discrimination Survey, yet the combination of anti-transgender bias and persistent, structural and individual racism was especially devastating for Black transgender people and other people of color. Black transgender...

All HRT information compiled into a handy source. →

mermaid-vision: jillygolightly: nonbinarynook: kiriamaya: robynseggs: HOLY FUCKING SHIT. Anyone who plans on taking HRT without a prescription from your doctor (via ordering on-line or some other method), this website has all dosages, amount of times you take daily, the specific names of the prescriptions, how you administer them, all the “red flag” side effects to look out for, etc....

July 2012

93 posts

IHS: Stop Blocking Native Women's Access to... →

fuckyeahsexpositivity: In the US, women age 17 and over have the legal right to get emergency contraception — sometimes called Plan B or “the morning after pill — over the counter and without a prescription at their pharmacy. But not, it seems, if you’re Native like me. I live on a reservation in South Dakota and when I went to get emergency contraception, the IHS workers told me I’d need to...

fyeahalternatives: tw: mentions sexual abuse I have read a lot about sex and autism, and I have heard things like: “How can you have sex AND be autistic?” “So can you have sex or?” “No one will ever have sex with me because I’m autistic…” “I flail so much during masturbation, how could I ever had sex? I’m TOO autistic.” Stimming is something that is natural for me to do. Flapping, waving,...

“The world is not full of Attractive People and Unattractive People. It’s full of...”

– Kate Harding (via Bon-Bon) The world is not full of Attractive People and Unattractive People. It’s full of people who are attractive to some and not to others. The world is not full of Attractive People and Unattractive People. It’s full of people who are attractive to some and not to others. ...

Bloodplay and Bloodletting: A Vampire's Guide

fyeahalternatives: Playing With Blood Author: Rose Vergara © Blood letting and blood play: sanguinarius.org Realistic fangs that can be sharp enough to feed with (Note: werewolf and saber cat also available) vampiresamongus: Tips and Information on Bloodletting Safe bloodletting techniques and how to learn them

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping...

kinkkitty: consent and communication. those are the big ones. honestly, I think that a healthy kink relationship requires the same elements that a vanilla relationship does; however, since kink relationships are in some ways heightened versions of vanilla relationships, those elements require heightening as well. for instance, I think that kink relationships require a higher level of...